THE GIFT

When you receive a gift a truly special one the beauty of it consumes you. It is unexpected, unplanned, it is as sweet as any spring morning when you just lie there the grass slightly wet against your back staring at the beautiful sky wondering what the day will bring. My soul has been troubled for such a long time. I have been at unrest with the weight of my world beating down on me every day. I have been lonely, empty, longing for touch. A silent and private cocoon I built around myself to try and protect myself. One I had hoped to never emerge from in some small way.

Then your gift...I could study literature for a 100 years, I could learn every language on the planet and still I could not put into words what it meant to me. I wish I could tell you always, but I know that's not supposed to be. It's Ok and I understand, and I know you know that too. Still it is a moment in time that will always be in my mind. Etched with such permanence the indelible memory of touch, of taste, softness. of time, and of peace in my world. Other memories will come and go, and as I age some will fade into forever, but this one I hope to never see fade. It seems I have so few memories like that, but surely this is one of them.

Our river is divided and the course of life takes us in very different paths, but its OK because I will always have that gift. Still I think about how I wish I could tell you always about how it makes me smile. How intense it might be if the situation were different. As our tributaries all rush towards the ocean of life it is not unexpected that our streams might cross again, and when they do it might be all we can do is trade a smile and friendly glance. However, you will always know what is behind my smile and I yours, and I don't think I will ever be able to thank you enough. I don't think I will ever be able to convey how beautiful you were by the dim light. How over taken by emotion I was, and how my heart beat nervously in my chest. I still close my eyes and think about it all. I still smile, and i still breathe deeply and say "wow...just wow" under my breath. Thank you dear for my present it was one of the best ones I ever received.

Another Anonymous question

A friend said she couldn't post this question anonymously, so she just sent to me in FB and asked if I would post it and answer it, so I guess it is not so anonymous for me. However you are still welcome to ask me any question as it outlined in the previous post by anonymously or otherwise asking it in the comments of this post or the previous one.

Question: If you had one of your many fans show up and ask you out on a date, would you go? Would you have a one-night stand, like the story you wrote about?

(She is referring to my three part attempt at erotica I just finished)

Here is my honest answer:

Yes, maybe...but there would be caveats. First off I would have to not be in any sort of a committed relationship ( which I am not in currently) and that person would have to be in a position where this would not cause them problems. So in other words all parties are in understanding. I don't want anything weird or uncomfortable and I certainly don't want to be the "other man" no way, or the deciding factor on whether someone should stay in their relationship or not.

OK now that the legal mumbo jumbo is out of the way. I would definitely go out on a date no matter what regardless of some of the caveats above. I mean I am a sociable kind of guy. I like doing fun things and I do need to get out once in a while and a date can mean many things, but mostly some conversation, some laughter, some pleasant company. I am totally down for that.

Now as for the one night stand. That's a little tougher. That generally is not my style, but I am not beyond it. I mean if all the pieces fell into place and everyone involved knew there might not be a tomorrow. It could happen. I guess my biggest worry is having expectations or weirdness the next day, and I don;t just mean with the other person. I mean I might just totally fall head over heels who knows. In the end though there would have to be some serious smiles, some serious laughs, and some serious chemistry, and who knows she could show up and be totally uninterested on her part. I guess in the end I don't want my heart to hurt anymore nor would I want that person's too either, so if I felt comfortable that wasn't going to happen.....

Yeah I could totally re-enact that fantasy. yep..yep I could



So here we are tonight
You and me together
And the storm outside
And the fire's bright
Oh, and in your eyes
I see what's on my mind
You've got me wild
Turned around inside

Oh and then desire, see
Is creeping up heavy
Oh inside here
And do you feel
The same way as I do now
Let's make this an evening
Lovers for a night, lovers for tonight

Why n' stay here with me, love, tonight
Just for an evening
And when we will make it
Our passionate pictures
You and me twist up as secret creatures
And we'll stay here
Tomorrow go back to being friends
Yeah, Oh, go back to being friends

But tonight let's be lovers,
We kiss and sweat
We'll turn this better thing to the best
Of all it can offer
Oh, this rogue kiss
Tangled tongues and lips
See me this way
I'm turning and turning for you
Ah girl, ah just tonight run away
Yeah, with me for an evening
Ah, just wait and see
But then tomorrow go back to your man
I'm back to my world
And we're back to being friends
Oh wait and see me
Ah tonight let's do this thing
All we are is wasting hours
'til the sun comes
It's all ours
On our way here, yeah cause
tomorrow go back to being friends

Yeah, oh go back to being friends
Tonight let's be lovers, oh please
Tonight let's be lovers, say you will
Tonight let's be lovers, oh yeah
Tonight let's be lovers

And hear me call,
Oh soft-spoken whispering now
Well, a thing or two I have to say here
Tonight let's go all the way then
Oh lover I can see you
Just for an evening
Oh, let's strip down
Trip out at this
One evening's hour starts with a kiss
And away yeah, then

And tomorrow back to being friends yeah
And now lover, love you, yeah,
Just for tonight, one night, love you,
And tomorrow say goodbye
Tomorrow say goodbye..

Q&A TMI

First off that smiley face..is what it is...OK? Secondly I wanted to try something new here. Go ahead and use my comment section to ask me a question. Ask me any question that is sexual in nature and I will at answer it honestly. Whether it is about guys, women, preferences, you name it. You ask it and I will answer it. You are welcome to use the anonymous option as well. Ok..make sense...ASK Away!

A Story - The ending (The happy ending *snicker*)

She was pulling him up back towards her and he knew what that meant. She wanted him inside of her and she wanted it right now. He felt so proud of himself he was still in control and he was going to tease her even more. He knew she was hot, wet and ready to go. She would be soft, slippery and tight with her wrapped around his hard cock. When his mouth reached her face she kissed him deeply and eagerly and before he knew what was going on she flipped him to his back. He was surprised, he laughed a little bit, but before he knew it the sensations made him gasp and even moan a little. She was over him now. She was in control. She was straddling him, kissing him. As her hair hung down around her face he thought to himself how fucking sexy that was as she kissed his neck, his chest, as she played with his nipples in her mouth and reached down and grabbed him. He was so hard and throbbing at this point it almost hurt. It never occurred to him until just this moment how long he had denied himself any pleasure. Her hair brushed along his skin as she moved further south with her kisses.This sensation gave him goosebumps from his head to his toes. He reached down and ran his fingers through her hair and just watched.

She grabbed him firmly and began to tease his cock with her tongue. She was having fun now. She was in control and she was going to drive this man crazy. She had talents too ya know. This was not unfamiliar territory for her. She licked around the head and tickled that spot right in the back where the head met his shaft. This made him arch his back and moan. She looked up at him with this evil grin knowing she was going to return the favor for his merciless teasing earlier. She gently took his balls into her hand and licked the entire length of his shaft. It was all he could do not to lose it at this point. The delayed gratification only intensified things . Then after what seemed like an eternity she took him into her mouth. The sensation made him feel waves of pleasure. Her mouth was warm, and wet and inviting and a sensation seemingly long forgotten by him. Her lips were soft and sensual as they wrapped around him and his instinct was to reach down and gently grab her head as she took him in and out of her mouth in long sensual strokes. He could feel the pressure and sensation as she sucked on him and he felt so swollen at this point. She continued to play with his balls as she took him deeper and deeper into her mouth. She would take a break every once in a while to lick and stroke him then go right back to taking him in her mouth. She loved the feel of him in` her mouth, the taste, the saltiness, the feeling of power it gave her over him. He was her plaything at his point. He held off as long as he could and then he had to pull her away. He wanted to cum, but not now, not yet, but man oh man he was so close.

It was time. She wanted this man inside of her and she wanted it now. She straddled herself across him and she grabbed his cock and pointed it right inside her. He looked at her and she smiled as she lowered herself on to him. He watched as his cock disappeared inside her and her smile turned to a moan. He grabbed both of her hands as she rocked herself back and forth on top of him. She was so hot inside. He could feel her wetness on his hips. He looked at her and in his mind it was so surreal. He loved every one of her full curves, She was not perfect and neither was he, but she was stunningly beautiful. Her erect nipples, her hair stuck to her slightly sweaty face at this point, her hips swallowing him, her eyes closed, her mouth slightly open, the moans. The smell of her, the taste of he was totally engulfed in this moment. In and of its own way it was perfection. As her breathing increased, so did her moans, and as she began to say "oh God Yes" he began to thrust his hips up to meet hers. At first he grabbed her breasts, ann then he dug his fingernails in as he grabbed her hips. She was still in control at this point, moving and positioning herself for the best sensation. As she came she dug her fingernails into his chest. The pain and the intensity of it all only added to his sensation and he let go. It was intense, it was like lightening, he thrust upward and he exploded inside of her. He felt the muscles of her contract around him with each push. After they both finished she leaned forward to kiss him. She was soft and salty and her hair stuck to his face as they kissed and he loved it. He was still inside her and she giggled as she flexed squeezed him to let him know what she was capable of. "You like" she asked "oh yeah" he said then he said "how about you?" she kissed him tenderly and whispered in his ear "oh yes and that is just round 1"

They played in that bed until the sun came up, resting in between rounds only long enough to regain their strength. The teased and played, they laughed and traded control. They tried as many positions as they could think of. At times though he loved just being at top, pinning her legs wide open behind his arms and just burying himself deep inside her. She loved the long strokes of when he would take her from behind, slamming himself into her. In the morning they slept in each others arms. In the end he was not sure what this evening meant. He wasn't upset about it though. The moment was nice and it had been so long and that is all he wanted to think about. He stroked her hair, He watched her breathe for a while. He smiled, he went back to sleep.

Bad Sex CQW...a guest post

The following is a post from a guest who wishes to remain anonymous. Now to be fair I left a relationship because of non-existent sex, but not necessarily bad sex. I think every relationship has some bad sex in it. Look when you are married, working, kids, jobs, places to be sometimes you have to "Pay the Rent/Mortgage" as they say. I am not a huge fan of this kind of sex, but it has its place. I think the author is referring to Bad sex that is consistent regardless of conditions. Of course I may have to look her up on that whole nympho thing ;-)

On a good note I was not unfamiliar with any of her suggestions for good sex. I am pretty much on board with them all. I think some of that comes with age and experience. If I am to put a plug in for older guys who know what to do in the sack we know to ask, and we like being told. We know to tell a woman she is beautiful and how to make her feel special. It tends to be more about them and less about us.

So here it is. Do you agree with the author's description of bad Sex or Lousy Sex? Do you think bad sex is something to leave a relationship for? What do you think about her tips for potential lovers?

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Bad Sex: A Necessary Evil?

As a self-proclaimed Nympho, I always thought that any sex was better than no sex, or even solo sex. Boy, was I was wrong. Nobody deserves bad sex. If you are in a relationship having bad sex, either change the sex or change the partner.

My definition of bad sex:

* When he doesn’t make eye contact.
* When he doesn’t kiss you.
* When there is no foreplay.
* When he doesn’t seem to attempt to make you climax.
* When he’s done, he gets up and washes off his penis in the sink.
* When he rolls over, turns his back to you and quickly goes to sleep.
* When he doesn’t say, “I love you” or doesn’t even say anything at all.

Personally, I’d rather play “solitaire”, if you know what I mean. At least if I don’t “win”, I know I tried.

I’d even settle for lousy sex, which I believe is a step up from bad sex. I define lousy sex as:

* When the intimacy session lasts longer than 10 minutes.
* When you include more than one position.
* When he takes the time to undress; not just pull his pants down.

I don’t speak for all women, but in case I ever have sex on the open market again in this lifetime, I hereby issue this open letter to men:

– PLEASE ask your woman what feels good and then DO IT. I don’t care if you’ve been together for years, keep on asking and keep on doing! Don’t get lazy. We have choices and we’re not afraid to use them.

– PLEASE tell your woman what you love/like about her. THIS WILL COUNT TOWARDS FOREPLAY. Tell her if you love her, if you’ve been thinking about her all day or if the way she looks in that dress turns you on.

– News Flash: Telling her that your dick is hard is not a turn on for most women. We don’t care. Waving it around doesn’t turn us on either. You just look silly.

– There are dozens of erogenous zones. You will get a prize for finding all of them.

As for me, I’ve concluded that life is too short to accept bad sex as a part of a relationship. Bad sex makes you feel bad, which I believe is the exact opposite of its original intent.

If you are having bad sex, speak up! If he cares about you, he’ll make some changes. If he doesn’t, say no to the Neanderthal and invest in a mechanical replacement, sold in adult stores near you. They don’t snore, leave their beer bottles everywhere and they are always there for you when you need them, as long as you have an endless supply of AA’s.

TMI - Fat Tuesday

1. Have you had sex with another person in 2010? Have you passed on an opportunity to sex with another person in 2010?

No, and the opportunity has not even arisen that I am aware of. It probably seems pretty pathetic the whole idea that I even have this blog doesn't it? Any takers?

2. What is the funniest thing you have ever said or done during sex? (Orgasmic facial expressions do not count.)

Does falling off the bed and sustaining a sex injury count? I have actually managed to do that. other than that although I am pretty comedic by nature I take my sex straight with no chaser. :-)

3. What is the first thing you notice about a member of the opposite sex?

Hmmmm seriously Hair, eyes and smile. I admit will check out her ass and chest too, especially if she makes them obvious. Although I like most women's curves and the uniqueness of them. However, I am a sucker for a pretty smile and beautiful eyes.

4. What is the best pick-up line you have ever heard? Every used? Ever been used on you?

Never used one. If I like a woman I'll just try to start a conversation. If she looks good I'll eventually just work up the nerve and tell her how great she looks. I have never had a line used on me. I think even it was totally goofy I would be flattered by it though, but then again I am sure it is different for guys.

5. Where is the most unique you have ever had sex?

On a football field underneath the bleachers, In a VW van totally stuck in the mud, and on the middle of the floor of a health club(umm after it was closed of course I am not sure I am good enough to have done it during business hours :-).

Bonus (as in optional): Do you pee in the shower? If so, has any SO known that you pee in the shower? Has any SO peed in the shower?

Well sure I have peed in the shower and do pee on occasion, but mostly I avoid it. I mean the toilet is right next to the shower, and at the gym I NEVER pee in the shower. I have never had a SO pee in the shower that I am aware of, but I don't think I would be grossed out or offended by it. Now if she gave birth in the shower I might be a little put off...just sayin'

A Story Part II

Her shirt was off and soon her bra was off too. The feel of her flesh against his hands filled his head with the idea of how much he had missed being close to someone. The intensity sent chills up his spine. He gently cupped one of her breasts and kissed her deeply as she worked feverishly at his shirt buttons, and then his belt. He was swept up in the moment and he moved from her mouth to her neck to her collar bone to her shoulder. She was pinned up against the wall and loved having his mouth and weight against her. As his mouth moved to one of her breasts she reached down and took hold. He shuddered, he gasped he almost stopped to catch his breath. He put her breast in his mouth. At first he kissed it gently then he swirled his mouth around her hardened nipple. He played with it at the tip of his tongue as she made him grow intensely hard. He grabbed her hips and held on for his life.

Suddenly he picked her up and took her to the bed and laid her down all the time kissing her and having her pull at his hair. The breathing was heavy and both of them could feel the sparks. There was no script there was no plan there was only the moment. He tore her pants off and smiled as he saw the little panties she had on. He had wondered if she knew this evening was going to happen all along they were so sexy. He ran his fingers along the inside, gently and slowly. He knew what he was doing now. His motions were smooth, gentle and deliberate. He was teasing her, creating anticipation. He felt her wetness he longed to taste her. He began to work his way down slowly kissing and tasting every inch along the way. He was taking his time. It was about control and as eager as he was to be on top of her, to be inside her he would make this moment last forever. As he worked his way down he slowly slid her panties down her legs, and she did the rest to wiggle out of them and kick them away. She laid back and grabbed the hair on his head and parted her legs. He reached down and just let the tips of his fingers glide over her mound. She let out a slight moan. He asked her if she liked that, but he already knew the answer. He positioned his head between her legs and gently pushed her knees back exposing her even more.

She willing obliged him and was trying to force his head into her. He resisted though and continued to tease her by gently using his tongue around the outside of her. Tracing along her like an artist outlining the portrait of his most intense moment ever. Then he used long strokes with his tongue to gently part her and traced his tongue along the inside of her. He could taste her, and feel her wetness on his chin. Then he went to her spot.. to her clit. At first he just played with it in quick short strokes to heighten her anticipation and draw her into his intensity. Then he began to circle it with his tongue. She had no idea he had such talents, but he knew exactly what he was doing and this time she moaned "Oh God yes" . He worked her clit with his tongue and as her thrusts grew more intense he would gently take her between his lips while continue to stroke her like there was no tomorrow. She pulled hard at his hair and as she did he reached up both hands and took her hard nipples between his thumb and forefinger gently pinching them and rolling them in between. As he her breath grew stronger, and her back arched, as she cried out he gently slipped a finger inside her and began to stroke her as his tongue worked faster and harder. He then shoved his hands under ass and grabbed her her hard with both hands. She was holding her own knees at this point. She yelled out now "oh yes like that don't stop!" and he didn't. He worked even harder now. The waves of of intense pleasure began to sweep over her body. They grew stronger with each stroke and her muscles began to contract. She grabbed his head and looked down at him hard at work then threw her head back and moaned so loudly as she came. He kept going then eventually slowed his pace. She pulled at his head to come back up to her. She wanted him deep inside of her now. She wanted him to feel how hot and wet she was. He got the message as his mouth slowly worked his way back up to hers....to be continued....